“So good to see you today!! I love you to the moon and back!!”
Yesterday I had a lunch date with my best girl friend. We get to see each other maybe once a month and usually always at the same place…a quaint little cafe in my hometown where literally EVERYONE knows your name. We don’t do much on our lunch dates. We talk, laugh, and many times, we cry.
My dear friend, Sharon, and I have been friends for about twenty years. In those twenty years, our lives have changed so drastically but our friendship has held strong. We have been through ups and downs and everything in between together and believe it or not, we are exact opposites:
I’ve had three kids. She’s struggled with infertility, three miscarriages, and has adopted one beautiful baby girl. I’ve been up and down in weight and she’s struggled with anorexia. I’m the artsy, comfy, and laid back girl. She’s the popular, cheerleader, athletic type. I live for the winter season so I can justify staying indoors. She longs for the summer so she can spend her days outdoors. I struggle to get up in the mornings and I put my make up on ONLY when heading into town. She gets up before every one in her household to work out, puts her lipstick on, and looks like she’s headed out for a night on the town all before I’ve had my morning coffee.
There is not one thing that should keep our friendship going…except one…our mutual love for Jesus.
Proverbs 18:19–Do a favor and win a friend forever; nothing can untie that bond. (The Message)
Ecclesiastes 4:12–By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. (The Message)
In the last few years, Sharon and I have both suffered through depression, hardships, and heartaches. I’ve had times when I needed someone so desperately that I couldn’t hardly function. Never fail, Sharon would send me a text letting me know that she was thinking and praying for me. A true friend is one who sticks with you even in your darkest of days.
I’ve had times when life just seemed so utterly busy that I couldn’t remember which day it was and that usually meant too much time in between phone calls to my dear friend. I’ve feared that she would be upset because I hadn’t even had time to say “hello”. Never once has she condemned me for it. She’s still there. Waiting…but not fearing.
Over the years, I’ve had friends leave me because they didn’t want to mess with what I was going through. They didn’t have time for me.
Proverbs 18:24–One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Sharon has never left me.
Yesterday, at the cafe, Sharon looked me in the eye, started crying, and told me that she would not know what she would do if anything ever happened to me. I’ve only had two other people tell me that…my mom and my husband. How could I be so blessed to have such a loyal, devoted friend? I’m so unworthy, yet she sees worth in me. And I will always treasure the gift she’s given me through all these years…her undying friendship and love!
The picture on top is from clear back in 1994 with our husbands and the quote underneath is what she sent to me after our lunch date yesterday. The other is a picture of Sharon and her daughter.
- Lord, Guide Me in All My Relationships… (thenoblenotes.wordpress.com)